Taking Ownership
Apr 15, 2022
Last week we talked about being self-critical when we make a mistake. But what happens when we lack accountability during conflict, challenging situations, or circumstances out of our control?
We talked about being too hard on ourselves when we mess up. But what if we have tendencies to blame others or come up with excuses? Beating up others with blame and shame or complaining by using excuses is the extreme opposite of beating ourselves up with negative self-talk. If you missed last week's topic, you can CLICK HERE to read it.
I'll share a concept I've learned. "We all own at LEAST 5% of any conflict or circumstance." Even if something was 95% someone else's fault, we still need to own our 5%. That is what we do have control of and that is what we can change.
If we get stuck on making excuses and placing blame, we cannot progress. We will continue to encounter these negative situations until we learn how to grow from them. When life doesn't go our way, or we encounter conflict, we can practice owning our 5% by asking ourselves "what is my part in it?"
By assessing our 5%, we keep an open mind and we can learn how to create our own circumstances. We may even learn that we actually owned much more than 5% of the situation.
Taking ownership of our part allows us to navigate our future in a more positive and productive way.
