Inner Voices
Jan 07, 2019 
We all have an inner monologue every waking moment of our life. This voice reflects both conscious and unconscious beliefs, and it influences how we react to different situations.
These beliefs are often formed in our developmental years.
These beliefs are taught and nurtured by parents and caregivers.
Were you ever told...?
"Get down, you're going to get hurt."
"Enough with your story, I have things to do."
"Why in the world did you do that?"
"What were you thinking?!"
"Why can't you be more like your brother/sister?"
All of these statements are typical reactions to a child's behavior. What inner voice does this create for them?
Here are a few possibilities...
"I'm afraid to try."
"What I have to say isn't important"
"I'm not good at making decisions."
"I'm stupid."
"I'm not good enough."
As we raise our children and provide guidance and discipline, we can create a more positive inner voice in them that will build confidence, self-worth, and courage.
Simple ways to do this are to pause and ask yourself as a parent, 'What are my intentions? Are they helpful? Do they come from they come from a place of love? Am I taking into consideration the emotional well-being of my child?'
Taking a moment to pause allows us to respond. If we only react, we are more apt to increase the negative inner voice in our children. Responding can be more intentional in building up our children's confidence, self-worth, and creating a positive inner voice.
