Don’t raise your voice. Improve your argument.
Jul 23, 2021
Raising your voice does not help during conflict. The only time raising your voice is helpful is to warn somebody of danger. Raising your voice is something that is usually not received well and will make the other person dig their heels more into their own point of view.
If you want your point of view to be heard, determine the reasons why you feel the way you do. By understanding those reasons and then having a conversation, other people may come to a new understanding of your point of view. In this conversation, you may even come to a new understanding of their point of view.
If you want your point of view to be heard, determine the reasons why you feel the way you do. By understanding those reasons and then having a conversation, other people may come to a new understanding of your point of view. In this conversation, you may even come to a new understanding of their point of view.
Generally, when you get yelled at, it can make you feel scared and/or belittled. Being yelled at makes us feel bad about ourselves. This is not the way I want to feel, how about you?
Maybe it's you that raises your voice during conflict. This is a learned behavior. Your parents may have argued with each other in front of you and this how you learned to get through conflict.
The good news news is... healthy conflict resolution skills can be learned at any age!
Some of the skills needed for healthy communication are:
- Active listening
- Patience
- Open communication
- Paying attention to your tone of voice
- Not taking things personally
- Not getting stuck on 'being right'
- Prioritize resolving the conflict
Think about this the next time you start to boil up and want to raise your voice - What point are you trying to communicate and how can you use the skills above to improve your argument?
