Hurt People Hurt People
Jan 08, 2021
Those who hurt us have been hurt by someone else and are usually hurting themselves. Their pain may be so strong that they are not even aware they are hurting us.
This does not excuse somebody for hurting us. It only give us a better understanding about why they do what they do. If we react from our own hurt and pain, we generally only add fuel to the fire.
This does not excuse somebody for hurting us. It only give us a better understanding about why they do what they do. If we react from our own hurt and pain, we generally only add fuel to the fire.
If we can take a moment to pause and take a breath, we may be able to respond with compassion and understanding. This helps the other person get into a calmer state of mind.
When people can communication from a place of understanding and calm, tempers are less likely to flare, and compromise is easier to achieve.
This can be the start of healing journey for both the other person and for the relationship. When people are in pain, their awareness may not be on how they are reacting.
You don't have to take on their pain, and you don't have to take it personally when someone is treating you badly. But, if you try and shift your perspective to one of understanding and compassion, you will find peace in the situation.
You can choose to try and heal the relationship or distance yourself from it.
You always have a choice.
