Explain Yourself

What is Anger?

To me, anger is an expression of a different feeling that we have not dealt with. For example…anger could stem from hurt feelings, resentment, miscommunication, or broken assumptions.

We all make assumptions based upon what we would do in a situation. Our reactions or responses are not the same as anyone else’s. When our expectations are not fulfilled, rightfully so, we are disappointed. Maybe we have hurt feelings or resentment. But what if these feelings are based off a miscommunication or an unmet expectation based on our personal unspoken truth.

With this information, I ask to you to take a pause before you get angry. Find out what is truly making you angry or what broken assumption or miscommunication may have happened. What is the underlying feeling?

If the underlying feelings aren’t fully worked through, they grow into something bigger. By identifying the root of our disappointment we can now process our feelings, and ultimately work towards solutions.

Now is the time to communicate.

When we listen to the other person’s perspective, we gain understanding and insight. We might just learn something new about them or ourselves. The process of working through our feelings, talking about them, and finding solutions with a new perspective and an open mind is empowering and relieving. It allows us to let go of negative emotions that would have only hurt us or have been projected onto someone else in an argument.

There is ALWAYS a solution to every problem.